Having Fun
Simply put, having fun is doing anything which causes us happiness. I don’t want to tell anybody what to do in order to have fun, because what causes happiness in me could be torment to someone else. I think that wading through database relationships, figuring out how to join pieces of information together to get something meaningful together is a good way to spend an afternoon. Others would be begging for some sort of physical torture after an hour of this type of work. To each their own, I suppose.
I have a friend who works at a bar in Vegas. Her idea of fun is wildly different from mine. If you don’t mind crude language and sarcasm that oozes out of every word, you can get an idea of her style of fun over at her blog. I can barely manage the polite customers that I was charged with helping at grocery stores, so how would I enjoy working with rowdy bar patrons?
There are some very common misconceptions about how to gain happiness, though. We don’t gain any happiness from having something. We only gain happiness from doing something.
When you buy a car, you are deliriously happy, even to the point where your throw out all sense of logic and take on a financial burden that you can’t manage. The car didn’t make you happy, buying the car made you happy. People who have a closet full of shoes are happy when they buy the shoes, but the shoes themselves don’t make the person happy. Buying “Stuff” is addictive, and the stuff doesn’t actually make us any happier than we were before.
That isn’t to say that we shouldn’t have nice stuff. If something we have is making us unhappy, then I would recommend replacing it. Just realize that having the better stuff will not make you happy, and if you have to make payments on that stuff, you’re likely to be quite unhappy when all is said and done.
So, what is my great, insightful advice for having fun? Do something. Don’t rely on your toys and tools to make you happy, just rely on your own hands and mind, and you can make yourself happy anywhere you go.
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